Open Question: marriage /control and divorce issues?
Ok, i really need help with this one. If you read my past postings this may not surprise you. I have been married 20 years and my wife has had two affairs and one lasted 1 year. She really wanted to keep seeing him and she told me that if i let her have sex with him that i would beniffit from it. She continued to see him but i did not leave her. We have two boys now ages 10 ,14 and she has became a major control person. She says to me , no beer, no credit card, she open my wallet and tore my card up when i was asleep. We went to dinner and she said , no wine. I have to get her permission first. Now she closed or joint account and she opened her own so i did the same and put my checks in my own account. She said she wants separate accounts. I also got my own credit card and now she is mad and says why do i need a credit card again? She is also now asking me for money and telling me i have to give her $1000.00 a month. She makes 26 hr and i make 16hr . before it was all one pot but now she wanted separate accounts and is now saying i have to give her a check each month for bills and house payments. Not a marriage now, just roomies. I talked to her and she says i have mood swings and need zoloft. I said that its the marriage and the way she is treating me that is causing the mood ups and downs. I try to do something nice for her like make her breakfast and she puts it in the trash and i take her to dinner and the next morning she wakes up and ack like she does not even know me. Any time i try to talk to her she says, there goes your mood swings again. When i came home today she had gone to the store and got some food and i asked her where is the reciept is and she would not show me, said wait till later so i said i really need the rciept and she said again, there goes your mood swings. I had some money in the joint account left over for overdraft protection and she went and moved it. I think i have always been a paycheck to her only. She allways has to have her way, always. We went camping and i had some wine and she got upset and asked why i had to have the wine. She has not talked to me or touched me for a month. She has asked me to get rid of all my stuff in my gurage and to sell or boat . I said i am not selling my boat. She is very stubron and mean and just wants me for the house and bills and lovers on the side i think……. The more i try, the more it backfires. I try to hold her or cuddle to her at night or be close to her and she pushes back and says i am smuthering her,,,
what gives ?????????????????????? any suggestions.. she says no counseling,,,,,,,, !!!!!